I am in the middle of Lean In, by Sheryl Sandberg and I’m loving it. I would recommend it to all women. It has already offered me so much inspiration and given me much pause. For me, it is particularly timely as I venture into my own business; albeit a small, side business at the moment. Becoming an entrepreneur is a very exciting prospect but with two young girls, it is also a very scary one. Lean In is definitely inspiring a sense of confidence about my decision but I woke up at about midnight this evening in a virtual panic, concerned that I really can’t do it all.
In Focus
I chose to put my career progression on hold for the first years of my daughters’ lives to put as much focus on them as possible. I continued to work but in a job that would ensure regular hours. But as my children begin school and are starting to find their independence, it is putting some of that focus back on me and the result is not entirely welcome. I don’t feel completely fulfilled intellectually and certainly don’t think that I have truly maximized my potential.
So, I have started a side venture with a partner, which is providing a bit of a creative outlet and greater sense of accomplishment. Now, don’t get me wrong; I take the greatest accomplishment from my daughters and always will. But as they forge a future for themselves, with their mommy supporting them and encouraging them at every step, I have to also look to myself as an example and ultimately, a contributing member not only of their lives, but of society that awaits them. Whatever time I find for my new venture is not at their expense. I am lucky that I can work quickly and effectively under extremely tight timelines. I credit my previous life as a reporter for that focus; but it’s daunting. At 2 a.m., I am still wide awake wondering how I can possibly do it all. I’m afraid I still don’t have the answer─ just a sense of dread over the extreme fatigue that is sure to engulf me throughout the day.
Sandberg refers to the movie I Don’t Know How She Does It, starring Sarah Jessica Parker, in her book and I have to confess that I’ve never seen it. But the answer to that question certainly eludes me. How does she do it? Better yet, can I?